Masculine energy - Thinking/Planning/Structuring/Doing/Strategizing.
Feminine energy - Feeling/Trusting/Allowing/Being/Receiving.
Relationships are delicate and fragile. The state of your energy is a huge factor to consider when you relate to another person. It determines how a given relationship translates into your life. When you relate to a parent, child, relative, friend, lover, your significant other, co-worker or a stranger; you interact with them on various levels of existence. Just think about how a certain person makes you feel and you will see that the interaction is way deeper than words, actions or thoughts. Each one of us is a field of energy. Unknown to you, your energy field is constantly trying its best to find balance and harmony through relationships.
Here are #4 illusions that you must see through to arrive at an energy state that builds deep and meaningful bonds in your relationship.
#1 Women are enemies of women.
This illusion is the most common one - that women compete and are jealous of each other, thus making them the worst enemies of each other. The way I see it, a woman does not pull down other women. She projects on to other women, and sometimes even men, her relationship to her own masculine energy. A distorted relationship with her own masculine energy can cause her to become aggressive, jealous, manipulative, judgmental, dominating and controlling. It can also keep her in a victim mode.
How to see through : Honor how you feel when you interact with such a woman and also honor her journey. She could be a mirror to what is going on within you.
#2 Men deserve to be hated.
Men are generous, loving, protective and are willing to cherish and serve women. A woman in her feminine energy brings out the best in a man. It is a natural, spontaneous happening. Feminine energy is more than looks, makeup and style. It is a mindset that is worth having if you desire to form an intimate connection with your man.
Most women harbor a deep seated resentment and hatred towards men. They blame them. They hold them responsible for everything that is going wrong with women in the world today. The truth is men are hurting too. Men are also highly sensitive and can easily feel offended or put down. Again, the way you perceive your relationship with your own masculine and feminine energies causes the blame game. This is also a generational wound that has been passed down to us, especially to us women.
How to see through :
1. Work on your men mindset. Identify your hate triggers with men and get to the source of your pain.
2. Step into your feminine energy when relating to your man.
#3 The success of a woman hurts the ego of a man.
This is such a huge one! I see so many women give up on their career or hold back on success because they are afraid to hurt the ego of their father/husband/partner. Well, the truth is only the ego can hurt the ego. Love always dissolves the ego. Having said that, it is obvious that while doing her job or running her business a woman is utilizing her masculine energy to the maximum. The problem is she forgets to switch back into her feminine once she is at home. The stacking up results in power struggles which causes the collapse of the relationship.
The feminine is a naturally powerful creator and can create a huge amount of money/success with ease and grace. The feminine has the wisdom to manage and utilize her wealth so that it adds to her life. Also, the feminine has the ability to collapse the timeline, which means that she can receive her truest desires within a few days rather than weeks or months. A woman needs to get this first, before she expects her husband/partner to understand her career orientation.
How to see through :
1. Find ways to switch to your feminine after your work time.
2. Get clear on how you want to create your finances/your success, if you desire to.
3. Have a heart to heart conversation with your man about how you desire to create your finances/your success.
#4 A man does not want to listen to what the woman is saying.
Are you kidding me?! A woman's voice is music to a man's ears.
But here is the thing - if you as a woman are going to converse with your man about everything that bothers you then for sure he is going to lose interest. Your man is not your diary or your journal. Utilize your diary to complain and crib. Utilize your man to talk about all that you love and to describe how you feel about all that you love. You will be surprised at how the conversation goes.
He wants to see you happy. He wants to see the twinkle in your eyes when you talk about all that you love. You can provide problems to him for solution seeking or give him challenges to work upon. Men are wired to find solutions and they are extremely good at it. The girl in you brings out the provider and protector in a man. The woman in you brings out the supporter and nourisher in a man.
How to see through :
1. Take responsibility to provide for the needs of the girl in you.
2. Educate yourself on how to have a conversation with your man.
These #4 illusions cause a relationship to be shallow and at the surface level. Thus the importance of seeing through them, if you desire a meaningful relationship. You are meant to experience depth, intimacy, connection and deep unconditional love in a relationship. When we work on understanding our masculine/feminine energies such a relationship becomes a reality, a happening. We can finally leave our fantasies behind and be in this moment of the relationship. This is sacred union!
Which illusion are you struggling the most with? How do you see your relationship from the masculine/feminine energy perspective? Leave a comment below to let me know what you feel or think.